tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010332933050943413.post6297227857816163047..comments2024-03-13T00:06:25.143-07:00Comments on In 2 Me See: I feel sorry for my IRL friendsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010332933050943413.post-51178882165336594132007-12-21T09:38:00.000-08:002007-12-21T09:38:00.000-08:00I can relate to the awkwardness. I want to be an ...I can relate to the awkwardness. I want to be an open book about my struggles, but most of the time my friends don't know what to do with me.<BR/><BR/>I just found out my friend from high school is pregnant with her 3rd and due in February. We had lunch in May and were excited about getting together, again, but she didn't cal me 'cause she got pregnant the next month. I thought, "Surely I could be happy for her and we could have had lunch again.!!." But, I guess she was just trying to be thoughtful.<BR/><BR/>Hope it gets easier for us both, soon.<BR/>Luv ya.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03449047627099384030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010332933050943413.post-51583391432308599592007-12-18T07:58:00.000-08:002007-12-18T07:58:00.000-08:00Ah, I can completely relate to both sides. While ...Ah, I can completely relate to both sides. While trying for 27 exhausting cycles, I was always the odd ball in the crowd of my mother friends. I never felt like I fit in. And it was so painful. <BR/><BR/>Now that I'm pregnant, I am so delicate and careful with my friends who are still struggling. And to be honest, infertility is something that isn't cured upon getting pregnant. It stays deep within and affects one much longer than expected.<BR/><BR/>Huge (((hugs))) to you for your strength. I know this is such a difficult time, especially during the holidays. Hang in there, sweetie!fortune_cookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17553361466063724257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010332933050943413.post-59569386896124920512007-12-16T21:33:00.001-08:002007-12-16T21:33:00.001-08:00Thank you bigkat - we miss you and your family.Thank you bigkat - we miss you and your family.Polly Gamwichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09338430066217324064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010332933050943413.post-63250648609589031212007-12-16T21:33:00.000-08:002007-12-16T21:33:00.000-08:00Daisy, you're so sweet - you are the rare exceptio...Daisy, you're so sweet - you are the rare exception to the rule. <BR/><BR/>And perhaps it's b/c of your struggles and own difficulties that you understand so well. <BR/><BR/>Please understand that I'm not upset w/how people are treating us - I actually think people do a wonderful job ... really what I wanted to communicate was how sorry I am that it has to be this way ... that our infertility doesn't just stop at our own pain, but it intrudes into other areas we wish it didn't.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your never ending love.Polly Gamwichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09338430066217324064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010332933050943413.post-15160608695589102782007-12-16T21:28:00.000-08:002007-12-16T21:28:00.000-08:00I can see why you'd think these things because you...I can see why you'd think these things because you support your statements quite eloquently, but please know that as a friend with children, we absolutely DO NOT feel as if "[we] have other friends who fit [our] circumstances better." We absolutely do not believe that and I hope I can change your mind on this.<BR/><BR/>You and Berilac are precious friends to us -- family really -- and I am assuming you will be in our lives forever. Don't feel sorry for your IRL friends who care for you and are trying to be sensitive -- those pregnant friends and those who recently had children and are yacking about this milestone and that milestone, are just sharing their lives with you (they're not trying to be malicious and hurtful). If they don't share much, it's because they're trying to be sensitive. I know your pain, because for 10 months, we tried and tried and tried to conceive with Ruby. I, too, have miscarried and I understand loss (on many levels), so I can empathize.<BR/><BR/>It's my prayer and hope that you don't give up hope and that you don't withdraw from your friends during this tremendously difficult season in your lives. Children or no children, you are both precious to us and we couldn't imagine our lives without you guys.Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08655018888616717698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4010332933050943413.post-72370460296691938412007-12-16T20:46:00.000-08:002007-12-16T20:46:00.000-08:00We love you very much and wish we lived closer to ...We love you very much and wish we lived closer to you so that we could provide some support for you somehow. But we still pray for you every day.BigKathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00965296514466216108noreply@blogger.com